Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Why Men Marry Bitches

So, I'm at the bookstore doing my work thing when this young, attractive, albeit meek looking, young woman comes up to my register to purchase her book. I glance at the title and read 'Why Men Marry Bitches.'

I have been married a couple of times. Does this mean I am a bitch? I never thought so, but according to this author, I must be! No no NO! It can't be! She must be wrong.

After reflecting on this, I can honestly say I really don't know a lot of bitches. I mean, there was my aunt (who was also my godmother.) Now there was a real bitch. Mean? This woman's middle name should have been 'Beware.' I'm telling you, she took no flack from nobody. She was the queen of nasty comebacks. She also made her living in politics, which suited her to a Tee. However, as bitchy as she was, she treated my Uncle Tony like gold. he was the exception to her bad treatment. And he adored her.

But back to the book. Could it be true? Do men prefer bitches? I don't think so. I think they prefer women who are confident. I think they prefer strong women. Or maybe they consider bitchy women to be a challenge.

Then I let my mind wander; Would we women want a man who had the attributes of what we commonly consider a 'perfect wife?' Think about it; A perfect wife would wait on her husband hand and foot. She would cook and clean and her heart's desire would be to spend all her free time doting on her mate. She would be ready for sex at the drop of a hat..or pants..or whatever. She would hang on her mate's every word and agree with whatever he said..

Okay, okay, I laid it on thick. But would we really want this in a husband? Yes! Yes yes yes yes! I would not prefer a bitch for a husband. Not a chance. EXCEPT! I would probably start to believe I was so worthy of all that adoration that I might figure I could do better than this milk toast man. Eventually I would want a challenge. I would want to match my power against a worthy 'opponent.' in other words, I would search out a bitch!

Maybe I should read this book, not that I need any help whatsoever in the husband business. The last thing I need is another man. but I do have a daughter. And I need to know if I should convince her to be a bitch.

10 comments:

  1. Btw, this book has received four and a half stars out of a possible five over at amazon.com. Apparently, women are learning how to be successful bitches from this book.

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  2. I have read through this book, and I truly believe the word bitch, in this case, is an exaggeration. It's all about being in complete control of yourself and never allowing a man to have the control over you. I flipped through and laughed, because my mother sat me down and told me the rules of 'the game' when I was twelve, and they were all in there.
    Truly, though, in a good relationship, no one would be trying to dominate the other.

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  3. Anonymous, thank you for stopping by and for posting here. I wish I could reciprocate by visiting your blog but I have no idea who you are! Thanks for posting, anyway, tho.

    Four Dinners, I thought I had responded to your comment already! I love yer really, too. :)

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  4. I personally am sick of the whole process...and have found recently (42yrs old)that we(my wife & I) have been doing this thing wrong for so long that it is irevocably damaged. I think it was the way we were raised. This notion that she had to take care of me and the kids, and be supermom, super maid, super everything to me and the family....it's all crap...and I am absolutey ashamed of what we have become...So do I want a Bitch...no...maybe a freind, or partner, but not a bitch....

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  5. Hi Brother; i know, the entire notion is cockeyed, isnt it? And what's more, this book (I believe) is meant as a guide for youngsters just starting out in the dtaing scene.

    Thanks for posting. Im over to view your blog now.

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  6. I have to admit I dont think I am a bitch of awife but you just never know. Maybe I should ask my hubby tonight when he comes home. Sorry I havent been around much lately. Been having family issues that are posted now....

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  7. Hi, it's your anonymous again! I forgot last time to also comment on your whole "should I teach my daughter to be a bitch" thing. Women, maybe moreso than men, aren't always taught to stand up for themselves and be respected, and it's a shame. However, you don't strike me as someone who would skip lessons on self-worth, self-sufficiency, or respect. In other words, I wouldn't worry too much on it. *smiles

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  8. tweetey, I went and posted at your blog. And no, youre not a bitch. Far from it.

    Anon, glad you came back! And yes, I've raised my daughter to respect herself. In fact, I've always told her to never forget that she is a rose.

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